Pick your battles
As a mother I find myself in constant conflict. What are the issues that really matter and what are the ones that just aren't worth the battle(s)?
For example, the other day my son insisted on wearing his Spongebob Squarepants slippers when we went out to the store instead of his spiderman tennis shoes. I tried in vain to convince him that in fact Spiderman WAS the way to go, he persisted, kept saying Spongebob over and over. I was to the point of total exasperation when it occured to me that this WAS NOT really that important. So what, his feet were covered, he rode in the shopping cart, did not walk at all, he was happy and my shopping experience was more pleasant than it would have been if I had denied him the one thing that was important to him at that moment, Spongebob. Sure I got some funny looks at the grocery store, but as far as I am concerned it was a win win situation, he was pleasant and happy and I got to shop in relative peace.
This situation last week got me thinking about what is really important when raising your children to be responsible law abiding adults while allowing them to also be happy, healthy, well adjusted children. Looking back, I did not realize that I say NO so much. It is actually kind of scary, like I had a corner on the word or something. So I have resolved to stop and think things through before jsut automatically saying no.
Let's see........
staying up a few minutes late
wearing the blue shoes instead of the brown ones
wearing her hair up in a ponytail or down
eating every scrap on her plate or letting her leave some behind
staying outside for a few extra minutes
taking a bath or not (unless they REALLY stink)
Cars pull up or Spiderman or Toy Story
etc, etc, etc
These things are okay and really not worth the battle and allows my children to make some decisions.
Riding bike without a helmet
peeing in the bath tub
not buckling up in the car
not doing homework
not being respectful
not obeying
not doing well in school
being rude
hitting another person
etc, etc, etc......
These things are NOT OKAY and are never tolerated by me........
I am just saying pick your battles, really, it is Okay! To me spending a few extra minutes at night reading with my children (even after it is lights out and they should be asleep), is probably better and more enjoyable for all involved then the fighting and the bickering and the few extra minutes of sleep.